Advice

Sometimes people say incredibly insensitive, stupid, or hurtful things in a weird attempt to "comfort" us (or themselves?). The best response is a gentle explanation (without snark or guile) t

o help them see that what they are saying is not helpful.However, when all your concentration is focused on not projectile vomiting one may not have the capacity for that kind of correction.I recommend a "stupid shit people say" notebook. When one is incapable of redirecting with compassion simply jot the stupidity down in the notebook. Then, at least, later on it can be a cause for comedy with a trusted friend or fellow cancerworld traveler. This may also be true for non-cancerworld residents.